Let go to Forgive

Our peers or friends often tell us; just forget it. But, I have a different submission. Human brains are hard-wired to remember those events that have hurt us emotionally. The memory which is secretary to the brain opens up that page of life that has crumbled us. It is like a Live FaceBook Video wherein as soon as we witness the person whom we have not forgiven as yet, we fume in agony and the fire of grudge and hatred start engulfing us.

Ideally, to forget is not the right way to human behavior because momentarily you will forget the mishap, but when you are self-enquiring; self-introspecting; the event will haunt you. You will burn even harder in the agony of having been the victim of the incident which hurt you whether emotionally or otherwise.

Imagine, you scolded a child, so hard that she cried for hours. But once, she slept of crying and woke up to the new hour, she smiles and starts playing like never before with you. Although you never listened to her demands and on top of it scolded her,what made her forgive you?

She has just “let go”. It is not about her memory whether some event happened hours ago; but something in her changed to divert her mind to the freshness and the new enthusiastic hour. That was the ability to Let GO! Not to Hold Back!

Can we act in a similar way? I suppose not comfortably. The human ego is so inflated; that we do not and will never give a benefit of doubt to even to understand the situation.

Preferably, we could not get judgemental about the person. We could avoid taking the whole scene as a personal attack. We could just reflect on the event as a witness to the entire situation as if we were never a part of it.

I believe, our time here is more important in doing things rather than thinking about events of the past which would stop the present.

Letting Go, Letting it be; is not that simple. But once tried repeatedly and practiced effectively will make you hard-wired to let loose and move to a better next day. That day will feel more free and relaxed. We are not practicing divinity totally but are being kind to ourselves and we are being kind to humanity.

By not forgetting the incident and creating judgments we are blocking our free SPACE, chocking up a part of us which could have otherwise lived in the present with the tasks at hand to complete them with the best of our abilities.

When you don’t forget, you will derail your train from the tracks of imagination, get more difficult on yourself by wondering how to act & react and you will also become hard wired and will resist Change.

We hold on as the human mind is fickle. It wants to protect itself from more bad memories. It is fearful. It believes that others are constant and if such situations keep erupting, life will not be smooth. It allows the animosity to create a grudge.

We create a self-defense mechanism around us. We like feeding our ego and making small talk to ourselves. This ultimately makes us happy. This happiness creates surety of our behavior with the person who did wrong. It gives a certificate to take revenge by being cold. It gives an authority to be mean too.

How do we let go? Just maintaining distance till you are comfortable works the best. In case, they are the people you live with or work with; be gentle and kind while responding. Being polite and letting others know what you expect from them is crucial. We humans have got the best gift of mankind; speech. We must articulate.

We like tossing ourselves in the memory of those who have harassed us, hurt us. I believe; as more of it is happening to you; the more the lesson will get harder for you to learn forever; to LET GO!!